Posted on: 13th May 2019
“For if you forgive others their sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
As a parent, I sometimes feel I should know more than I do, especially after having three children and the oldest being fourteen. But I don’t. Here is my top mistake – I ask my children what they think, when actually I know their choice is going to be wrong, or unattainable. For example, “What would you like for tea?” should have been, “Beans on toast or soup?” You know full well that when asked what they wanted, those two options were not top of the list.
Looking back at the children of Israel’s choice in Deuteronomy 30:15, I should have learned how to set a question. “See, I set before you today life and prosperity, death and destruction.” Really! Was that an actual choice? What would you choose? Have a look at the rest of the story to find out about the choice they made.
Fast forward to the new testament, the Lord’s prayer. Jesus asks us the question “Will you forgive others?”.
I can think of lots of examples of situations that seem to be unforgiveable. This is especially true when the person who has done the wrong shows no remorse or isn’t feeling sorry for their actions. How can you forgive someone who is not sorry? How could the people of Rwanda forgive their neighbours who killed their loved ones, just because they were form a different ethnic group?
But Jesus’ question about forgiveness didn’t really have a choice. Your forgiveness by God is directly affected by your willingness to forgive others. The consequences of not forgiving are not worth considering, but the blessing of forgiving others and being forgiven by God, makes forgiveness the only option.
My challenge this week is that you will find the ability and courage to deal with any forgiveness you may need in your life. If this is too difficult for you to face alone, find someone you trust and talk about it with them. It may be that you are the one wronged, or you may be the one who needs to say sorry.
Posted on: 16th April 2018
“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God.”
When we’re at a crossroads in life, when we’re not sure which way to go or what to do, we’ve got a God who delights in giving us wisdom.
When we’re experiencing a conflict or a problem in our lives, He’s got the answers. He knows what’s best for us. But we can so often find ourselves looking to other things for direction or trying to sort everything out ourselves. The Bible says: ‘If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God.’ God may use other people to give us His wisdom, but we should still ask God before anyone else. He should be the One we turn to first, whatever we’re facing and whatever we need.
God loves it when we desire His wisdom. We can see this in the story of Solomon. When God asked Solomon what he wanted, Solomon replied that he wanted wisdom and discernment, so he could rule the people effectively. The Bible tells us that ‘the Lord was pleased that Solomon had asked for this’ (1 Kings 3 v 10). And when we seek God’s wisdom, we not only please Him, but we’re blessed too. ‘Blessed are those who find wisdom, those who gain understanding’ (Proverbs 3 v 13 NIV).
We can ask God directly for His wisdom through prayer. But we can also find His guidance and wisdom in the Bible. Here we find how God wants us to live, and it’s full of advice and stories of people who’ve experienced things just like we face today. When we take the time to read it every day, we become immersed in His wisdom. So instead of doing things that don’t work, let’s turn to God, and His Word, for wisdom.